Emotional and psychological problems are often complex and personal life experiences are always unique, and this is where I can help you.
By using a variety of different approaches and several styles of counselling and psychotherapy, specifically tailored for each individual, I can help to find solutions to your problems.
Don’t delay, call me today….I’m here to help you.
Trust is a basic necessity for a good life as without it,fear and uncertainty will be with you at every moment. So what is Trust? This is a huge topic that I can, but only just touch upon, as it also depends on each individual´s perspective and experience as everything, in life.
For me, Trusting is being comfortable within myself when connecting with other people,places or things. It is a deep knowing, a resonance that all is well when relating to that person,place or thing. Without Trust,optimal relations and optimal life experiences cannot happen.
Trust goes hand in hand with Love. Loving someone must include Trusting that person otherwise the Love cannot flourish. It will be hampered and the relationship will sour. Betrayal by the other is what breaks the Trust and is usually very difficult to re-establish. It is possible with dedicated perseverance and the if there exists True Love between two people.
One hears of Trusting God, The Universe, Higher Power, Divine etc and that is, Trusting that a power greater than oneself, A Good Power/Energy/conciousness is always looking out for the best for oneself. Not necessarily is that easy or fun! This has proved to me over and over again,the bridge between betrayal and Trust, bringing us to a place within, of Trusting oneself, which is a lovely warm and loving space within, that one can carry around on a daily basis…
A huge topic that I just wanted to comment on today. Abuse comes in many forms and can be very subtle. Different cultures with their particular norms,values and traditions will show or not show abuse accordingly. I have just returned from India and just some observations from my birth country. As have been living in various European countries since I was 14,am noting how differently abuse can be defined.
The first aspect is The Family. Indian families are known to be close knit and seem to share much more. Homes,finances,raising of kids,travel..in short just about everything. Parents or the elders rule and there is a very distinct hierarchy through age. All seems rather warm,loving and cosy. The old expect to be looked after the younger generation as in the rest of the world. But what I noticed more and more in India is how the generation up till mine, expects the younger ones to put their lives on hold totally when they get to that depending stage. It is just how they are brought up by the generation before,but for present times it feels too demanding and abusive, as the trend now is autonomy,nuclear families and independance and so caring for the elders cannot be a priority.This is now causing a lot of friction within families esp between mother-in laws and daughter in laws ending up with huge rifts and even suicides. It is serious stuff.
That is just one example I have given,but what I observed is that this trend remains throughout Indian society.Another example is the caste system. It was a practical application for the formation of society giving defined roles to it´s populace,but over time it has been used to abuse the people of the lower castes as the higher the caste, the better you are supposedly. This happened as the higher caste is meant to be closer to God and was usually wealthier so more powerful. Look at the domestic staff situation. Most Employers still treat them as slaves. No proper living conditions, low pay and ridiculous working hours. Pure Abuse as I see it. And the staff themselves feel indebted to their employers for being so well looked after! This is as because they are from a lower caste…This also runs through the work force in general,but luckily as globalisation occurs and foreign companies invest more and more in India, different values have come into the country and so people are seeing more humane values and change is occurring slowly but surely. People are beginning to stand up for their rights as Human Beings at last!
The sad part about Abuse is that usually the abuser is not aware of what they are doing or is in denial so it is not easy to affect change. Abuse is a very self centred act and as I said before,acceptable by the society where it occurs usually till some speak out and cause a ripple towards change. So it is not a question of blame or right and wrong,but if everyone was aware and considerate of the other and realised Equality and Oneness of every living being on this earth, then Abuse would not occur. Perhaps this sounds idealistic,but I know it is possible as I live more and more this way and so anyone can….
I have just touched on the subject of Abuse. It is a very wide field and occurs in many different forms and it is up to each one of us to introspect and define whether we are giving or receiving abuse in any way to any living being and change it, if so.
